Just Nicky

On the subject of siblings August 25, 2005

I have 4 siblings - all much older than me. Brother 1 is 13 years & 3 months older, Brother 2 is 12 years older, Sister 1 is 10 years & 8 months older and Sister 2 is 9 years & 4 months older.

My brothers & Sister 1 had left home before I was 9. They all had children by the time I was 12. Sister 2 & I shared bedrooms on and off throughout my childhood and she was the one I spent the most time with. Consequently I worshipped the older 3 and was fairly indifferent to Sister 2.

That changed in 1984 when Sister 1 went to America, recovered some memories and the family imploded. 20 years later, thinking about the whole thing still upsets me. I found it difficult to like Sister 1 for quite a while after.

Over the ensuing years I found that I was better off with some distance from my older 3 siblings. I don’t feel a particular connection with my brothers and find Brother 1 particularly annoying as he always seems to know all there is to know about everything. Every time I get close to Sister 1 I find myself drawn into her ongoing intrigues with The Mavis and it’s not somewhere I want to be.

I get on well with my older siblings. I see them at family events and that’s good. But I don’t want to spend any more time with them. And that works very well for me.

Sister 2, however, I will happily spend lots of time with. I love to see her with Foozley. I value her judgment in everything, except fashion.